It’s a common scene that happens in youth baseball leagues in towns across the country. A parent is unhappy that his or her child is not in the starting lineup, batting in a certain spot in the order, playing a certain position, or perhaps that parent is displeased about another issue. The parent directs that anger towards the coach, an argument ensues and tension is created for the rest of the season.
Jack Perconte understands the challenge a coach faces with
parents of players. After a 12-year professional baseball career that includes
seven seasons in the majors, Perconte retired in 1987 and opened a baseball training
academy in Naperville, Illinois
- Give the parents background information about the coaches, especially about their playing and/or coaching experience related to the game. Be honest about your background.
- Express your philosophy of coaching. The three ultimate objectives are winning, player development and fun. I suggest a 30, 30, 30 split on these objectives and applying the remaining 10 percent for the area most needed. This 10 percent will be determined by the competitiveness of the team and the league. At the meeting, clearly state the goals of the season. I believe it is alright to play to win even at a young level, as long as it is kept in perspective. Remember, you want the ballplayers to develop their skills and have fun.
- Discuss your philosophy about playing time, batting order and positions played. Let the parents know how you plan to run the team. For example, do players have to earn their position on the field or in the batting order, or will you rotate the players? Give parents a chance to ask questions, and make sure your answers are clearly understood. Be sure to recognize and discuss the objectives of the league and level at which the team is playing.
- Discuss when and how the coaches can be approached during the season so there are no confrontations. Set up a system where conversations are held away from the players, other parents and the crowds. There will be issues that arise from time to time, but let parents know that disagreements will be handled in a civil way away from the players.
- Effective communication is the key to averting problems. Make sure parents also reiterate the coaches’ philosophies to the players. Most of the time, young people are happy and content with playing and being around their friends. Troubles start to when parents start to grumble at home to the players about the coach. Insist to the parents that they approach you before getting upset and expressing that displeasure at home.
- Most issues arise because the parent does not think the coach is being fair. It is important that the coach fulfill his or her philosophies detailed in the pre-season meeting. If you change your philosophy in the middle of the season, then problems can arise.
- Just as hitters are made, coaches are also made. Coaches should be a role model and a teacher to their players. It is easier to help players develop their baseball skills and enjoy the game when the parents understand the reasoning behind the coaches’ philosophies.